I’m poolside, supposedly in paradise. I booked a month in a Mexican beach town, a test drive to see about settling here. I prepaid to get the best rate.
Within a few minutes I had doubts. In a few hours I thought “What was I thinking?”
I needed a quiet beautiful place to work, and this was not it. It was very hot, there was no A/C in the room, (I didn’t think to ask), no table suitable for a desk. Wifi? Weak and unreliable, something I have experienced again and again in my travels.
So I'm sitting at the pool, trying to beat the heat and get online with another iffy network. Its not working, either. The fear starts to flow. I have work to do, connections to nurture. I have ideas to vet. If I can’t get online, I can't research. If I can’t research I can’t decide. If I can’t decide I can’t launch. If I can’t launch I can’t reach revenue...
Now we’re really rolling, my fear dragon is smacking her lips in anticipation of a juicy snack.
What if its a bad idea? I need a team. I have to invest in building the business. When will it cash flow? What if I spend too much on it?
I will end up an old woman, trapped in a poor hot country in a town JUST LIKE THIS, maybe in this town! I won’t be able to afford anything better. I will run out of time and savings, and have to live on a paltry social security stipend.
People will all shake their heads and say, "We knew it all along, what was she thinking?"
See how this works? What started out being frustrated with crappy wifi has blown up my store of hope and optimism and has me in my seventies, old, poor, and alone in a foreign country.
We have to keep our inner drama-queen dragon on a short leash or she will wreak havoc with our confidence.
I have learned a few things about managing fear over the last few months of traveling solo. Below is a mash-up of various techniques to regain your perspective and turn fear into fuel for your day, without resorting to denial to get past a tough moment.
Try this when you spiral into panic mode:
When you feel ready, re-start:
Play with these ideas and develop a calming mechanism that works for you. Make decisions from a calm place, not from the wheel of chaos when irrational fear takes hold.
Everyone gets scared. Most people try to hide from it. Don't be one of them. Denial forms corrosive blocks, especially over time.
Women who learn to manage fear as a tool make incredible progress in work and life.
What do you do when panic strikes? Help a sister out and let us know in the comments below!
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